Sunday, February 23, 2014

I was ready to give up and I was given a reminder...

I spend a lot of time guiding others. You could say it is my mission to encourage people to see a positive side and to realize that each of us is in control of our actions, our attitude and our perspective. I do this with my friends online as well as people I come in contact with face to face.

Lately, I have been receiving quite a backlash when I have attempted to raise others up. It was getting to the point that I wanted to just say, "F*** you, I am done." I did not say this, but I nearly said it to myself and had the urge to just walk-away from my mission. I have a personal life. I could easily and selfishly focus on my own happiness. But who would that help? Will it make a difference in this world today if I never attempted to share my knowledge or encouragment? No, it would not make a difference and that is exactly the problem.

I was reminded that there are still others who are willing to understand what it is I teach. If you do not already know this, my local job is teaching children karate. Along with learning how to defend themselves, the kids also learn how to control their bodies, their emotions, their actions and how to give and get respect. Occasionally, a parent asks me to talk to their child about their behavior outside of the karate class. Recently, a parent came to me in this regards.

One of my students had been blatently misbehaving at school, completely ignoring any instructions from his teacher and choosing to do his own thing. He and I sat down privately and had a little chat. He told me the details of recent events at school without putting the blame on anyone else but himself. He is very aware of what he did wrong.

I pointed out to him that obviously no one can MAKE him do anything, he did what he wanted. He agreed. So I asked him if he was a follower or a leader. "I am a leader," he replied.

ME: And as a leader, you have the ability to show others how to give respect and kindness. Can you imagine what it would be like if everyone did this?

HIM: There would be no jails. (And that was a clue for me to understand what else he is dealing with.)

ME: That is very possible... What can you do to change this behavior?

HIM: Stop hanging out with these kids. (I assume there is a certain group of "bad" kids he has been influenced by.)

ME: But if you are a leader, you can stop these other kids from doing something wrong or walk away from it, instead of doing the same thing with them. Do you understand?

HIM: *nods* I can help others to be good.

ME: Exactly. One by one we can each make a difference. It begins with you... Now, go join your class.

Thanks to the conversation I had with my student, I am reminded that although we may not be able to change everyone in the world, especially older generations that are sometimes set in their ways; there are younger generations that are learning from us. This was enough for me to want to keep going with my mission.

What are we teaching them? What kind of example are we living while these young impressionable minds are observing us? Is it honest? Is it kind? Our goal is to leave the world better than how we got it, for the sake of younger generations. And they will continue to do so for the next generation after them.

Sunday, February 16, 2014

Using Empathic Abilities in Your Daily Life

A few months back I wrote a blog, "Empathy 101: A Basic Understanding of Feeling Others Emotions" describing what empathy is, how to recognize it and how to practice controlling it. It very quickly became my most popular blog article, and still is to this day. 

I wanted to elaborate a little more on the subject and explain how you can use empathy in your daily life. If you realize you have the empathic skills, which I believe everyone has the capability, then you can consciously help others and raise the vibes on the planet.

Group Meditations
The whole idea of sending out positive energy is why many people get involved in group meditations. It has been proven that when a group focuses and meditates with their hearts “cleansing” the world, there is a positive shift in the empathic atmosphere. 

Group meditations are a great way to shift the world’s energy. However, what you do after the meditative session will make a greater and longer lasting impact. Many people, who participate in a group meditation, go to church or other religious gatherings (which is also a form of group meditation), get in synch with the crowd, fill the space with love; and then return to their daily life patterns with a completely different attitude.

If you find yourself screaming at your kids or siblings, yelling angrily at a driver who cut you off, or even holding a grudge against your neighbor because their tree is over your fence line, then you will be counteracting any positive energy created during a “group meditation.”

Most often, when I go out into public, I make a mental effort to send out good vibes. I will walk around smiling, giggling and humming under my breath, as I feel my energies spread out. By the way, smiling, laughing, singing, and dancing are a few things you can do to raise your own vibes. You can help make a difference just by keeping your own positive energy up and help to raise others. 

Everything you do is energy. How are you affecting the world? Is it positive? Is it kind? Your attitude is YOUR CHOICE. You are in control of your thoughts, emotions and actions. What you think, say, feel and do in your everyday life is where you can truly make a difference.

Animals are naturally Empathic
Have you ever cuddled up with a dog or a cat? Have you ever felt down and your pet snuggled up with you? They feel our emotions, too. If you are paying attention, you will feel theirs. And if your connection is strong enough, you may even receive telepathic images in your mind from your pet or other animals.

Energies on Objects or Spaces
An imprint of energy is what remains long after a person has walked away or an event has taken place. Feeling an imprint of energy on an object by touching it or being in close proximity is called psychometry, in many ways, an extension of empathy. You may feel the energy of the owner of the object or possibly even layers of energy from others who have touched it. As your abilities and awareness grows, you may even “see” the history in your mind.

Sensing the imprint of energies in a space is also quite common. Have you ever walked into a room and felt strange? Almost as if you “know” what happened in that space recently. You can also create a light shield around these objects or space, transforming any negative energy to a positive.

Empathy over Distances
Empathic energies are not limited to great distances. In fact, energy can travel at any distance in only a moment’s time. With the rise of communications via phone calls, text messages and social networks over the internet, we have the ability to connect with people around the world. This connection gives us optimal ways to understand others on so many levels. Have you heard of the phrase, “Reading between the lines”? This is true in a very literal sense. Not only can you hear or read a person’s words, you can feel the energy behind their words.

Reading words or listening to a voice speak is one way to connect empathically. It is very possible to connect with someone at an emotional or physical level, even from across the planet. To do this, focus on the person and pay attention to what you feel.

Several times, I have connected empathically with friends while chatting with them over the internet. When one friend had a broken leg, I was able to feel and determine which leg she had broken. Another friend did not say anything to anyone, but I sensed something was wrong. I “tapped” into her and felt some pain in my ribs on the left side. I then messaged her asking if she broke a rib recently. This friend was in complete shock with my accuracy and repeatedly asked me how I knew. I had said that I felt her; she did not believe me and equated my accuracy to random chance.

Most people will not believe that this is possible. Many will deny it. You do not need their belief so long as you believe it can be done. If your idea of having certain abilities is to show off to others, you are missing the point.

You have the ability to truly understand and help others; to truly make a positive difference in the world. To selflessly make a positive difference in someone’s life, is the most amazing gift you can give of yourself.

More reading on "Empaths"
Attention All Empaths!
So, You Have Discovered You Are An Empath... Now, What Do You Do With It?